Mommy vs Daddy

My husband and I have a terrific marriage. We are best friends, advocates, partners, etc. We are always considerate of eachother, and are always supportive. We also have a very active bed room!!
However, we disagree on almost everything related to raising our kids.
We definitely agree on things like manners, education, and religion... but everything else is pretty much a cut right down the middle.

He can't stand co-sleeping, It doesn't bother me at all. (especially when they are sick)
He thinks I baby our 2 year old too much--- I say "your damn right, that's my baby"
He says that I should let our 10 month old 'cry it out' more --- I said, "why watch them get so upset just because they want you??
He thinks I spend to much on clothes, toys, etc. --- OH Well!!!
He thinks that I don't disipline at all-- that's not true, I just do it differently.
I think that he favors his other children from a previous marriage-- he disagree's (that's always a big argument)
He said that it's my fault that the kids come into our bed in the middle of the night--- I asked him why it was my fault--- he said "because you just scoot over" Ha!
Major issues with what the kids do- sports, dance, etc.
He isn't that empathetic towards the kids-- he says that I am too empathetic.
I just ignore my two year old when she is throwing a fit, or try to re-direct her thinking to something else--- He just say's 'that's enough' 'there is no reason to cry' ---- Well, Mr. Smarty Pants, how do you think she feels when I wouldn't give her another donut? She thought that was a great reason to cry!
Almost weekly we are challenging one anothers parenting styles.
We never argue in front of the kids, and we try to respect one anothers opinions..

BUT--- That still doesn't give us a resolution.. I mean, do we do it his way? or mine?
Do I do aganist my insticts? I think not!!!!

Like the whole co-sleeping thing-- I don't encourage it, but it also doesn't bother me. The kids fall asleep in their own bed, that's good enough for me.
Plus I usually always have the 2 year old and 10 month old in the bed with me if they are sick- to monitor fevers, breathing, etc. Plus, sometimes you just don't want to be alone..
These are just little babies- They want to be with their parents, they don't want to always be alone- and I totally agree with that. Plus, in 5 or 6 years they won't even want to sleep with us, and then before you know it, they are off to college. So-- I enjoy it while it is here!!!

I don't know what I am supposed to do about other things though... And some of them are really starting to weigh on our relationship. Our foundation is rock solid, but feels a little cracked right now. I will not go against my mother insticts, but I know that I 'should' try to come to a mutual agreement.. right?